Business Meeting CCI 2013 UK Launde Abbey 31/7/13

Business Meeting CCI 2013 UK Launde Abbey  31/7/13


Corrections made by: Julian, Bobby, Susan T., Janice, Verena, JP, Marlies



Renewal and Growth

Reconciliation:  Face to Face in CCI and Climate Impact

CCI Model 

Young people in CCI

What are we doing to put off "black" people?

Any other business


Next CCIs

Oct. 2013 Israel

Summer 2014 Germany

Summer 2015 Ireland (Thanks Bobby)

January 2015 New Zealand

Summer 2016 Hungary

Summer 2017 The Netherlands

Summer 2018 Scotland

Every year in April, USA


Community Reporting:


England, Wales and N. Ireland

Sue Gray: Active teachers, teach in pairs - in Bristol, Suffolk, Oxfordshire, Leicestershire, 


Leeds, London (Tonya) and Dorset?

12 residentials a year

Peer Support Network - a charity where Sue lives.

Hard to fill classes and afterwards, difficult to feed into the network

Celia: Feeling a sense of renewal, taught 5 classes in the last year!



Lilian taught a fundamentals class last year, 1st in a long time.


Some events took place in Perthshire, in Glasgow with Geoff and in Edinburgh. In Scotland there is a new venue, Island of Butte.
The fifteenth McCoCo has been attended by people from England, the Netherlands and Scotland.
The 'CCI-Scotland' organisation was dissolved. The 'CoCo Network Forum' has been set up to support people to offer co-counselling workshops and gatherings. There is also a team of 4-5 people who are preparing a printed magazine with the option to get it emailed.
Apart from that there is already for some time an email newsletter based on the CoCoInfo web site. About 80 people are subscribing to that email newsletter.


The Netherlands

Marlies: There is a low profile in the community. Workshops are offered and not many people show up. There are 3 new members. The recent Co-Co weekend had 25 people in attendance. 


January - February course to be offered in Rotterdam

Hope to learn from England about Renewal.

CCI 2012  was very nice but it did not bring in new people to the community. 

Intro evenings offered but no one comes. Eveline has a regional group in Amsterdam. There are co-co evenings in Arnhem and The Hague.

There will be a Teachers' workshop in Donkebroek at Joke and Niek's the last weekend of September – will talk about new ways of attracting people to co-counseling through the internet. 



Janice: The Dror Community is not growing at the moment. The last fundamentals was taught over a year ago and the class was very small. 

Regular activities- Class on Taking Charge - Leadership Training: hoping to support teachers to open classes. 

Sessions Gatherings every 3-4 weeks, free event for people to meet up for sessions and to find session partners on their own time. RC people are welcome and participate. 

Arab - Jewish Support group meets monthly for over 30 years, people not familiar to co-counseling are invited to experience a co-co event first hand. 

Fundamentals taught in prisons continuing now for over 8 years. Two classes currently running taught by Avi Butavia, assisted by Janice Wasser and Yael Shachar. 

Class on Age will open for its 4th round next month. 

Janice hopes to teach a CCI Fundamentals in November. 

Two national workshops each year, Spring and Fall. This Fall the gathering will be combined with the first official CCI. 25 international participants have registered - from UK, NL, USA, Germany, 12 so far from the Dror community. It's difficult for the Israelis to take time from work, families and commit to a 5 day workshop. 

Administrative council opened a Facebook page for the Dror Community (in Hebrew). 



Csaba: Things are low key now. Agota brought in 7 new members from a fundamentals in winter. 

It's difficult to organize activities for them. 

Mogdi is planning hospital groups for cancer patients.

There will be a residential for old co-coers at the end of Sept. 

There are sessions groups where  just 3 people come, includes Csaba.



Markus: There is an annual meeting and a workshop is being planned at Siglind's venue, the 

Co-Co Center. 

There are community courses over a weekend each year - 19 co-coers attended, mostly 

university students studying  medicine and psychology.

Siglind works with the University bringing students into co-counseling, offering fundamentals course twice a year. The University pays for the course. There were 10 students in the last course. 

Siglind runs a self-help group in 3 cities. It's for people who are waiting for therapy so they attend a co-co workshop  while they wait. Participants are shown how to co-counsel. Payment is received from the social services. It's an ongoing process.

Currently a teachers’ class is running with 9 teachers in attendance which started this year (January) and will last to end of next year. 

There are 300 active co-coers in Germany.

Hamburg? No Fundamentals at the moment.


New Zealand

Khushi: There are two national residentials a year. In Auckland there was an intensive weekend workshop. The numbers are not growing. People are offering to run fundamentals - there are about 3-4 facilitators but not many newcomers in Auckland.  People come and go. There are two clusters: Auckland and Wellington.  Last year the Auckland group offered a timetable for offerings on co-co also for non-co-coers.

There are monthly sessions gatherings in Auckland.



Roxanne: The North-East Community is spread out. There is work in the prison and workshops once a month. The annual workshop over a weekend is well attended, about 20 people - it's especially supporting newcomers.

There is co-counseling in 8 states across the US. There is a problem of isolation for those living far away from New England. Fred Wallace offers title workshops. People are very willing to share their teaching materials.  There is a children's group and men's and women's groups.



Bobby: Things are fairly flat in Ireland. Bobby co-taught Fundamentals in Spring - a mix of students from different cultures - Indian, Irish and Basque. There is a problem with enthusiasm - people are not doing much themselves. Bobby doesn't feel energetic about organizing activities. 

People write and ask to enroll in a fundamentals but when there's finally enough people to open a class many are already busy with something else. Another problem is with distance issues. 


Next CCIs


Israel - Nice showing from CCI members in Europe and some from the US. Harder to attract Dror people since their not used to a 5 day workshop. We've run two evenings facilitated by Avi B. to encourage people to work on why it's difficult to commit.


Germany  - all is fine


NZ - Adverts of CCI NZ in the various coco newsletters and web sites, learning to market the workshop. No brochure yet - concerns over expense of air ticket if it's too near Christmas.


Ireland - Declan has booked at Termonfecken for 27.7. Question about teachers' workshop in cottages since there's only place for 8 people. They need to know numbers and are aware of the advantage of running the teachers workshop in the same place as the residential. Declan needs emotional support. He gets practical support from Bobby and James. Richard Mills will put a website for the workshop and info  will be posted on info.coco through JP.


Celia suggests to encourage new students to attend CCI, helps them  get involved.


USA - April 22-27. Info on website. Feb. 1st is deadline for early bird discount of $25 

Brochures at the reception desk.


Hungary - Agota says it's on. No venue yet.


The Netherlands - There is a request to return to the same venue - Bakkeveen


Scotland - 2018 too far away




Renewal and Growth



When teaching NLP, there is a natural flow for offering courses but in co-co, no flow. Is it too old? There is a richness in co-co that is not conveyed. How do they work in Plum Village? Where there are so many people coming as Julian shared with us, he just is back from a fortnight in Plum Village.



Important to understand the "perceived relevance" for getting more people into co-counselling. Some years ago together with Joyce Lukkes he brought a group of women between 30 and 40 working on topics like ticking time-clock, wanting a career, babies, finding committed partners etc., relevant topics for that female age-group. The group generally shared their experiences in a co-counselling sharing way. The co-counsellors in that group used co-counseling sessions to work on their specific topic. They put their non-co-counseling partner on a Free Attention with confidentiality contract. This resulted in that the other women wanted to do the fundamentals as well.



Taster days - free of charge. 5 people wanted to start fundamentals and 2 ended up taking 

the course. Two new people came to McCoCo. People with a humanistic background, peer 

support group. There's a vast arena of skilled practitioners needing a support network.


JP- aftercare.



The need for co-co is as great as ever - people come by word of mouth. Eleven people 

came because of 2 people telling their friends. It worked! She is very optimistic. Stop - age 

profile of co-coers. "I'm too old" There are 4 new people in their 20s 30s and 50s.



There is an ongoing discussion of these ideas on co-co web sites and co-co list



Non-violent Communication is thriving in NZ for young people. Offers a dance for 

universal peace. Why do they go there and not to CCI?



Peer Support Network  - a 3 day course + 2 says is an easier way to get people in need for 

increased emotional awareness.



Climate Change
I acknowledge the enormous benefits from us meeting face to face at international CCI workshops: inspiration, sharing skills and ideas, cross fertilization across communities ...
I acknowledge the enormous suffering already created by climate change: more extreme weather (droughts, floods, fires, storms) damaging homes and causing crop failures (and high food prices), sea-level rise displacing delta farmers (eg Bangladesh). 
(The Red Cross reports that there are now more environmental refugees than war refugees.)
The Bottom Billion (poorest) suffer the worst climate impacts.  
The Top Billion (us) are responsible for most climate change through our carbon intensive lifestyles, especially (sadly) flying (especially long haul).
How can we begin to reconcile these?
I want to encourage us as co-counsellors (individually and as communities) to begin to find loving, creative, intelligent responses to this issue.

Jean - use trains instead of planes in Europe

Dai - carbon offset - sponsor planting trees

JP - world decision-making - it's an overall logistics problem for humans

Janice - skype video conferencing at CCIs 

Marlies - regular sessions on the internet


CCI model 



The reason that co-counseling is declining is that people aren't using the original model - Free attention without affect -  feeling warm and heard - peer-led 

MIND - facilitator holds the group. Words are being changed, people are getting lost because the structure is not being kept. Free attention means non-affect. Especially useful for people with mental health issues.



What do you need from us?



I want to hear what resonates here.



Essential for co-co to work: peer element is so important in our hierarchically designed society


Roxanne - setting a contract is essential

Celia - teaches 2.5 days just on free attention, total client self-responsibility

Sue - how do we teach it?

Susan -  It seems when people are learning to co-counsel they sometimes use the introduction of the opportunity to intervene (through a normal contract) to relieve them of the unusualness/discomfort of continuing to offer free attention instead of maintaining free attention and allowing interventions to come out of that.

JP - Don't focus on the young people - old people are the focus and they have younger people in their lives, if it works for them then they will bring the younger people

Khushi - Attended 4 CCIs and sees very few people of color. She feels lonely, no one to talk to about this. Racism is the most toxic thing in my life, but I don't talk about it.  

JP - Perceived relevance

Khushi - it's about identity, her sister is in a black group run by  RC.

Roxanne - Proximity, where you live and who you work with.

Sue - Funds available for a project that works with people of color - BAM 




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