Hello wonderful co-counsellors

I am pleased to invite you to this event that I have organised….
NB it’s already nearly full… only 2 places are left.

Meeting Yourself and Others:
Unique Moments Together in the Here-And-Now
Barmoor, YO62 6UE, North Yorks.
13 – 16 Dec 2019

For co-counsellors only

This group provides a space for people to come together and relate authentically with each other in the 'Here and Now'.

The invitation is to:

• Stay in the here and now, to stay present, and notice your thoughts, feelings, wishes and needs..

• Say anything you like

• Be in an exploratory group with no fixed agenda, and allow space for the unexpected.

• Experience a group of equals where there is no leader.
The experience will be both interpersonal and intra-personal. This means that there is an element of relating to others in the group, so it's inter-active, but it also provides an opportunity for internal reflection, about how you are, in the moment.


This H+N group is one continuous group over the weekend, so that in each of the H+N sessions we may refer back to the other ones.

The co-counselling ground rules re: confidentiality apply.

The venue is now booked by us up until Monday 16th Dec at 11.00am.

The formal circles will still end as previously advertised, at 5pm Sunday, and then we’ll eat together. After that, those of us that wish may stay at the venue until the Monday morning for a leisurely departure… we’ll decide at the event how to spend that extra time.

Please avoid taking alcohol or non-prescription psychoactive medicines at the event.


YO62 6UE
(Near Pickering, N. Yorks.)

This is a lovely old Quaker house in a very secluded and peaceful countryside setting. It’s been used by CCI for residentials for nearly 30 years, and is ideal for our kind of work.

Sleeping accommodation
Because of the maximum number (12) of participants, we’ll mostly be able to have single rooms.

Friday 13 – Sunday 15 December 2019



Arrive any time from 5.00pm

Dinner: There’ll be some soup and bread + fruit for you to eat.

We’ll have an Opening Circle on Friday evening after dinner, probably 8.00pm or 8.30pm.


Breakfast 8.00am – 9.00am

9.15am Opening Circle to sort out cooking stuff etc plus AOB.

The default times for Here-and-Now sessions on Saturday and Sunday are

10.00am – 12.15pm

2.30pm – 5.00pm

However, these times are open to negotiation: during the circles on Friday evening and Saturday morning and Sunday morning we may discuss alternative timings.
If we reach no agreement that everyone can live with, then the default times will apply.

We’ll decide as a group how to spend the Saturday evening.

We’ll eat dinner together at the end of Sunday afternoon, and then leave after tidying up.

This communal event is self-catering, so you are asked to help.
I will either bring food or arrange delivery of food.
Please state requests on the booking form.

Other stuff
Central heating will be on! Plus log fire… We’ll be warm.
No need for us to do any cleaning.
We have to leave the place tidy.


Price is £95
(The regular co-counselling events at Barmoor cost about £65: the price for this H+N event is higher because of our maximum number of 12 instead of 25.)

Booking + Payment

1. Please return this form:

2. I will email you to say if you have a place.

3. Then, send £95 to:
Account: Coco at Barmoor
Sortcode: 40-41-44
Account number: 91335316

4. Then, send me an email richard [at] richardmills [dot] co [dot] uk to say you’ve paid.

If it's too difficult for you to send £95 all in one go, please contact me to work out a way that may work for you.

Richard Mills
richard [at] richardmills [dot] co [dot] uk


MORE INFO about what this is about….

The Guest House (by Rumi)

This being human is a guest-house
Every morning a new arrival
A joy, a depression, a mean-ness, some momentary awareness
Comes as an unexpected visitor
Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they're a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture
Still treat each guest honourably. He may be clearing you out for some new delight.
That dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing, and invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.

The potential benefits of this type of group might be:

• Authenticity
• Aliveness
• Getting in touch with yourself…feeling ‘connected up’
• Getting in touch with others…connections
• ‘Uncertainty training’
• The ability to wait
• Getting feedback from others
• Self-knowledge

''Wow, I feel a buzz. Thank you all. It was warming, moving, profound, reaffirming...''
- Charlie, 1st November, 2016.

'It was extraordinary. Thank you all x'
- Chris Beale

'Another super series of moments in the here-and-now. I love this.'
Vicki 20 June 2016

'Wow what a wake-up call! I haven't felt more alive and scared and nervous and proud and connected in such a long time!'
- Eileen 20 June, 2016

'Amazing experience that I don't get anywhere else.'
– Deborah 20 June 2016

Event Dates
Friday, 13 December, 2019 - 17:00 to Tuesday, 17 December, 2019 - 10:55
Barmoor Hutton le Hole YO62 6UE
Hutton le Hole YO62 6UE, North Yorkshire YO62 6UE
Verenigd Koninkrijk
Phone: 07984002495
North Yorkshire GB
Travel Information

Train: to Malton, North Yorkshire... either someone will pick you up or I'll try to assist with shared taxi (which you pay for).
Car is pretty easy... eastwards via Helmsley (or via Pickering - slightly longer).

Please let me know if you'll arrive by train at Malton.


Vegetarian.... other non-meat diets and options are catered for (vegan...gluten free). Please let us know your requirements.

No cooking of meat or fish at the venue: if you wish to eat meat or fish please bring your own, pre-cooked.

Sleeping accommodation

Shared rooms, for 1 or 2 people per room.

Guaranteed nice views.

Money matters
Costs of attending: 

Price: £95
There may be a small refund once I’ve bought all the food and know final numbers. You’d receive this at the event.


Payment arrangements

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Send £95 to:

Account: Coco at Barmoor
Sortcode: 40-41-44
Account number: 91335316

If it's too difficult for you to send £95 all in one go, please contact Richard to work out a way that may work for you.

Registration / Booking Information



If you have questions please contact Richard Mills

07984 002495

richard AT richardmills DOT co DOT uk


Contact Information

Richard Mills

07984 002495

richard AT richardmills DOT co DOT uk