Session
In a Co-Counselling session one person is in the Client role and works on what is important to them. The other person is in the supporting Counsellor role. After an agreed time they switch roles for the second session. This session takes as much time as the first session. Sometimes the Client is called Worker or Creator; while their counterparts are called Counsellor, co-worker or co-creator respectively.
The name Co-Counselling has been derived from the fact that the two people switch roles, It could have been called Co-Clienting for the same reason.
Session Ground Rules
1. Equal time
Both sessions have the same length of time and take usually place straight after each other and at the same day.
2. The Client is in Charge
The Client is In Charge: the client is ultimately in charge of the session, and can always revoke any Session Contract with the Counsellor.
3. The Counsellor supports the Client in their process
The role of the counsellor is
to follow the client with Free Attention
to support the client as agreed in the Session Contract
while the counsellor does not necessarily have to understand what is going on
to keep time and notify the client
to keep Confidentiality
A Co-Counselling session is never a conversation between the Client and the Counsellor. The session is a place for the Client to explore and express their Inner Truth and reflect on it without any comment, approval or disapproval.
Session Structure
- Negotiation 1: coming to a session agreement
Negotiables are: Duration e.g. 10 minutes each way, when, where, who starts first? - Negotiation 2: individual session contract
Client and counsellor clarify what kind of support the client can expect from the counsellor. This negotiation is done in the beginning of each session. It includes also a warning time before the end of the session. - Actual working time
Sometimes people start with What-Is-On-Top, loosening up exercises or a validation for yourself. - Finishing of the Session
Depending on the Co-Counselling tradition there are several finishing questions: "What do you take with you?", action plan, "What is good about your session?", "What quality of you made this session possible?", a validation of your work - Attention Switches, Attention Out or Present Time exercises
These are meant to leave the session material behind and move into the Here-and-Now.
Session Contracts
In a session contract people clarify what they as client and counsellor can expect from each other. With the above ground rules in mind Co-Counsellors can negotiate any contract they want, as they are considered to be autonomous people.
All Co-Counselling contracts clarify:
- the when, where and duration of the session
- the level and type of suggestions requested by a client in a session. This can be modified at any time during the session
- the level of confidentiality required
- the level of physical touch involved
To make life simpler, there are several Session Contracts so that people do not need to set up an extensive negotiation in order to have sessions.
Core Session Contract
This is the Free Attention / Loving, caring Attention Contract
This is a contract in which the counsellor is only present while not giving any suggestions. This contract forms the base for all other session contacts to build and add on their contributions..
Add-on Session Contracts for an Open Flow Session
Based on the Core Session Contract the counsellor can give suggestions depending on the csession contract agreed.
- Normal Contract / Loving, caring Attention Contract with suggestions.
This is taught iduring the Co-Counselling Fundamentals Courses.
- Co-Creation Contract
- Intensive Contract
- Intuitive Contract
The last three are generally taught in Further Skills Workshops.
Add-on Session Contracts for a Structured Session
- Identity Check
- ANSA contract
- Life Action (USA)
- Role Play (Munster)
- Making a Picture (CornuCopia)
- Video Technique (CornuCopia)
- Pain-to-Power (CornuCopia)
Non Co-Counselling Session Contracts
- Massage
Group Sessions and Session in the Group
Session In Group
Demonstration Session
Often done in the group during a workshop to demonstrate a technique or procedure.
How a session is set up
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A Definition of Co-Counselling International - CCI
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"A Definition of Co-Counselling International - CCI." One to One (1996).CCI is a planet-wide association of individuals and local networks committed to affirm a core discipline of co-counselling while encouraging, on an international and co-operative basis, the advancement of sound theory, effective practice, network development and planetary transformation. Local networks of co-counsellors within CCI are independent, self-governing peer organisations, exploring ways of being effective social structures while avoiding all forms of authoritarian control. Any person and network is a member of CCI if :
- they understand and apply the principles of co-counselling given below
- they have had at least 40 hours training from a member of CCI
- they grasp, in theory and practice, the ideas of pattern, discharge and re-evaluation
The Principles of Co-Counselling
- Co-counselling is usually practised in pairs with one person working, the client, one person facilitating, the counsellor, then they reverse these roles. In every session each person spends the same time in the role of both client and counsellor. A session is usually on the same occasion, although sometimes people may take turns as client and counsellor on different occasions.
- When co-counsellors work in groups of three or more, members take an equal time as client, each client either choosing one other person as counsellor, or working in a self-directing way with the silent, supportive attention of the group. For certain purposes, the client may request co-operative interventions by two or more counsellors.
- The client is in charge of their session in at least seven ways:
- trusting and following the living process of liberation emerging within
- choosing at the start of the session one of three contracts given in no. 9 below
- choosing within the first two contracts what to work on and how
- being free to change the contract during their session
- having a right to accept or disregard interventions made by the counsellor
- being responsible for keeping a balance of attention
- being responsible for working in a way that does not harm themselves, the counsellor, other people, or the environment
- The client's work is their own deep process. It may include, but is not restricted to:
- discharge and re-evaluation on personal distress and cultural oppression
- celebration of personal strengths
- creative thinking at the frontiers of personal belief
- visualising future personal and cultural states for goal-setting and action-planning
- extending consciousness into transpersonal states
CCI takes the view that the first of these is a secure foundation for the other four.
- The role of the counsellor is to:
- give full, supportive attention to the client at all times
- intervene in accordance with the contract chosen by the client
- inform the client about time at the end of the session and whenever the client requests
- end the session immediately if the client becomes irresponsibly harmful to themselves, the counsellor, other people, or the environment
- The counsellor's intervention is a behaviour that facilitates the client's work. It may be verbal, and/or nonverbal through eye contact, facial expression, gesture, posture or touch.
- A verbal intervention is a practical suggestion about what the client may say or do as a way of enhancing their working process within the session. It is not a stated interpretation or analysis and does not give advice. It is not driven by counsellor distress and is not harmful or invasive. It liberates client autonomy and self-esteem.
- The main use of nonverbal interventions is to give sustained, supportive and distress-free attention: being present for the client in a way that affirms and enables full emergence. This use is the foundation of all three contracts given below. Nonverbal interventions can also be used to elaborate verbal interventions; or to work on their own in conveying a practical suggestion; or, in the case of touch, to release discharge through appropriate kinds of pressure, applied movement or massage.
- The contract which the client chooses at the start of the session is an agreement about time, and primarily about the range and type of intervention the counsellor will make. The three kinds of contract are:
- Free attention
- The counsellor makes no verbal interventions and only uses nonverbal interventions to give sustained, supportive attention. The client is entirely self-directing in managing their own working process.
- Normal
- The counsellor is alert to what the client misses and makes some interventions of either kind to facilitate and enhance what the client is working on. There is a co-operative balance between client self-direction and counsellor suggestions.
- Intensive
- The counsellor makes as many interventions as seem necessary to enable the client to deepen and sustain their process, hold a direction, interrupt a pattern and liberate discharge. This may include leading a client in working areas being omitted or avoided. The counsellor may take a sensitive, finely-tuned and sustained directive role.
- Counsellors have a right to interrupt a client's session if they are too heavily restimulated by what the client is working on and so cannot sustain effective attention. If, when they explain this to the client, the client continues to work in the same way, then they have a right to withdraw completely from the session.
- Whatever a client works on in a session is confidential. The counsellor, or others giving attention in a group, do not refer to it in any way in any context, unless the client has given them explicit, specific permission to do so. It is, however, to be taken into account, where relevant, by the counsellor in future sessions with the same client.